Mom Balance Tips: Give Yourself Permission to Relax

by Amy Hilbrich Davis

in Personal Wellness

Personal time for a mom is precious and every mom I know struggles with the issue of how to balance family and personal time–even when on vacation.

I’ve written about the beauty and value of enjoying the gift of an extra minute in our time starved days.  Time is  our most precious resource and we have to protect it. We all feel like we’re pulled into ten different directions each and  every day.  So what’s wrong with enjoying a vacation right alongside your kids? Nothing!

Even after seven children, I have to make a conscious effort to stop DOING sometimes and just BE. It’s time for me to take my own advice as I prepare to head out on Spring Break 2010! I need to remind myself to be still and relax amidst the chaos.

My favorite time of day to connect with me is the morning. It’s such a luxury for me to take a time then. In those moments I think best and can review my day without an audience (that’s the luxury part). Some mornings I try to read form the stack of books next to my bed. Reading can be such a gift. I love reading a quick devotional or a page or two of the Bible ( that always make me feel especially good), or my latest read,  The Immortality of Influence, by Thomas Salome-EL. Reading centers me, especially  before I jump  into “mom” mode, and become consumed by the zillion different hoops I have to jump threw throughout the day. We all have the dreaded mental checklist or drill that wakes us up each morning:

We’re out of milk, getting low on diapers, the guy is coming to fix the refrigerator between two and five, and Randy is in Chicago on a business trip.  Some days the list is so long, it feels impossible to get it all done.

But, guess what, it has to get done. So I figure out a way to work through it and know that it’s not going to be perfect and that’s fine!

·       Sometimes milk is overrated.

·       Babies often do just fine in an adjusted pull-up (masking tape is the eighth wonder of the world).

·       Breakfast for dinner is festive.

I try to remind myself to give myself grace and cut myself some slack. No one is perfect and there are certainly no perfect mothers.  I have to stop myself and remember that the people who matter most—-the ones who call me MOM—don’t really care what’s for dinner.

So when I hear the laughter and voices of my kids as they move around the house each morning and a new day together begins, I gain perspective. My kids just want their mom, they don’t care how I look or that everything gets done around the house. They just want me, my attention, and my love. Thank God that comes naturally.

But when life gets in the way as it often times will,and you’re  having one of those days–especially as you wait in the line at Disney Land,  I find that laughter is the best medicine. Keep you sense of humor. No one can take that away from you.  Here are a few quotes about motherhood to remember on those days that make you question it all.

The phrase “working mother” is redundant. -Jane Sellman

Any mother could perform the jobs of several air traffic controllers with ease. -Lisa Alther

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